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The secret to handling change: Fiona Blayney

Adjusting to any kind of change can be daunting for the best of us. Fiona Blayney looks back at a steep learning curve and advises: Just give it time.

A single woman doesnโ€™t really need a 4WD, especially when she has nothing that needs carting around in the back of it; a laptop can surely fit in the front seat.

After caving to the advice of Dad when I returned from my backpacking adventures, I bought that sensible Green Corolla Hatch instead of the Jeep Wrangler I so desperately wanted. At age 30, however, I bit the bullet and bought the Black Rav4 Cruiser L, for which I had no purpose but an insane desire to own.

I loved that car: its leather interior, heated seats and phone carkitโ€ฆ. Did I say it was black and had a sunroof? Driving it off the lot, I thought Iโ€™d made it and cherished every moment behind the wheel.

Of course, there have been several cars since then โ€“ and no, Iโ€™m not a European girlโ€ฆ I like my cars like my men. Iโ€™m a โ€˜top of the line mid-range kind of galโ€™ (snigger). But funnily enough the Rav hasnโ€™t left the family and instead it made its way to its current home, the nature strip at Dadโ€™s. Seems he found a non-use use for it too.

When I jumped into my old Rav4 last week, whilst it looks better than new, I couldnโ€™t believe how different it felt.

The first day I got my new Mazda CX9, I pulled out of that dealership at a snailโ€™s pace. It felt like I was driving a tank, it was so big; it had more sounds and flashing lights than a jumbo jet. I was on edge for days as I navigated the streets of Sydney, and had a near miss with a pole in the shopping centre car park (OK, it wasnโ€™t a near miss; it was a slight kiss of a pole that left a slither of a paint deposit โ€“ thank God it came off with that useful tool, my fingernail). I was seven months pregnant and crying that day, contemplating how I would ever navigate out of the car park let alone drive this car as our new mode of transportation.

I somehow managed to not only get out of the car park but make it home, and now 10 months later Iโ€™m zooming around the streets of Sydney. The noises are now alerts, the reversing camera a must and the keyless entry ensures I never have to turn my handbag upside down in a frantic search again.

When I jumped into my old Rav4 last week, whilst it looks better than new, I couldnโ€™t believe how different it felt. Something that was once second nature was now old and clunky. Everything about it felt โ€˜harderโ€™: the steering, the mirrors and even those butt-warming seats.

There are days when, like you, Iโ€™m overwhelmed by too many new things and brought to tears.

Thereโ€™s been a period of major change in my life in recent times, and it continues; with the arrival of our now six-month-old, Iโ€™ve gone from being a mum of two to a mother of three (wow, what a ride that is!), our business has expanded in the past 18 months, which has meant what was a team of six is now tribe of 16 โ€“ oh, and my eldest started school so Iโ€™ve joined the P&C (thatโ€™s an article for another day).

At times life feels just like it did when I drove that CX9 for the very first time. There are days when, like you, Iโ€™m overwhelmed by too many new things and brought to tears. I keep reminding myself that even if I bump into a pole in the car park, one day soon this โ€˜new lifeโ€™ will have become my normal and Iโ€™ll be driving with ease. All it takes is a little time, patience and practice.

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Fiona Blayney

Fiona Blayney is the founder and director of Real+, an industry first Property Management learning platform. For more info visit realplusonline.com.au.