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Finding yourself when all seems lost

Change is hard, and especially so when it leaves you questioning who you are and where you belong in the world. Lisa B examines how a shift in the way you do business can help you discover who you are and what you stand for.

Who are you?

This may sound like a strange question to ask, but it’s totally relevant and incredibly important.

It’s a question that we should ask ourselves regularly, and it’s one we should not underestimate the importance of, especially given the current conditions.

Sometimes, when we are feeling out of sorts, it can all be due to one simple thing.

One thing that can mean so much.

Sometimes feeling off-kilter can be very much to do with how we see ourselves.

More specifically, who we see ourselves as and what or who we don’t see ourselves as.

Let’s say for several years you are a business owner, an employer and you are married.

You would probably identify yourself as the following:

  • a business owner
  • a director of a company
  • a licensee
  • a husband or wife.

These titles are who you are and become your identity.

Then imagine one day the situation changed dramatically and you found yourself in a different situation.

What if you found yourself separated or divorced, or you sold your business?

What if both happened?

You are no longer a husband or wife, and you are no longer the business owner.

This can leave you feeling empty because if you are no longer those things, who are you?

Sometimes traumatic things happen in our lives and we are no longer in the same situation we were in previously.

COVID-19 is a good example of that.

These types of events may cause us to have a very different idea about who we are.

Who you saw yourself as previously and who you may identify yourself with now, could be two completely different things.

Our confidence could also be shaken up in the process.

It’s a common occurrence that sometimes things can change and it can feel like we lose part of ourselves.

It can feel like parts of the jigsaw puzzle are missing.

When one or two of those things you previously identified yourself with disappears, it can throw you off course.

Sometimes you know something is wrong, you’re just not sure what it is.

Be strong about who you are or who you could be.

Work on cementing this vision into your mind.

Remember that just because you are no longer doing something short-term, it doesn’t mean that you are not that person anymore or that you’re not capable of doing those things again.

The end of the year and the beginning of a new year is a time where we reflect on who we are and what we have or haven’t done.

We take stock of our goals, aspirations, hopes and dreams.

It’s a time we check-in to our goals and think about new year’s resolutions.

Emotionally, we may feel good or bad about where we are and who we are at this point in time.

Let’s tap into your identity now.

Grab a piece of paper, a pen and write down the following, listing what comes to mind first.

  • Who are you? (Eg mother, father, brother, sister, real estate agent, husband, wife, licensed real estate.)
  • What have you achieved?
  • Who do you want to be?

Our identity is something that we need to be mindful of.

No matter what the circumstances,we should always work on cementing who we are and who we want to be in the future.

It’s not only important, it’s critical.

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